10 Reasons Why Boomers Are Getting Divorced
The divorce rate for older Americans is on the rise. This is why.
The divorce rate might be dropping overall, but there is one demographic of people who are bucking the trend: Older Americans. According to new research the number of older people living alone is on the rise, as is the divorce rate for those over 50. Why are boomers opting to end their marriages? Here is what you need to know about the trend and 7 reasons why they are getting divorced.
According to the latest statistics, nearly 16 million people aged 65 and older in the US lived alone in 2022 – three times as many who lived alone in that age group in the 1960s. Because of the aging boomer population, the number will likely grow.
"We were just floored by our findings," Susan L. Brown, co-director of the National Center for Family & Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University, told CNN. "Well over a third of people who are getting divorced now are over the age of 50," Brown says. "We just can't ignore that group anymore. Brown and I-Fen Lin found that from 1990 to 2010, the divorce rate for people over 50 in the United States had doubled, dubbing it "the gray divorce revolution."
She adds that though divorce rates for the overall population are declining, Brown says, "older adults are really bucking the trend," especially for those over 65. "This means more and more people are going to be aging, probably, alone, and outside of marriage, certainly," Brown says.
One of the reasons more older people are getting divorced is because they can, due to financial independence. Because women have main economic gains since the 1960s, they can afford to be alone.
Divorce used to be a taboo topic, but not anymore. Because marriage isn't thought of as a scarlet letter anymore, many people aren't ashamed to go through it.
Susan Myres, a Houston divorce attorney, explains that when death could be looming, people rethink their choices. "I had one client tell me, 'I do not want to die next to that man – I'm out,'" Myres says.
In the post pandemic world, she noticed another reason why people opted to split – they had differing perspectives on vaccines, masks and politics.
Some people held their marriages together for the kids, but now that they are all grown up and even have grandkids, they are choosing to go on their way. "I've seen a pretty sharp increase in mature couples who have adult children and probably have some grandchildren," Myres says.
Myres adds that some of her clients suffered abuse or discovered shocking transgressions.
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Myres says that all of them – including some clients in their 80s – feel like any years of life they have left are too precious to spend with the wrong person.