The foundation of good manners is all about kindness and consideration for others. As Emily Post once said, "Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use." Having respect for others makes society a much nicer place for everyone—here are 15 old-fashioned courtesies we wish would come back.
Handwritten notes and letters have a thoughtful personal touch no text or email can ever replicate. Whether it's a thank you note or an invitation, a handwritten message shows the sender took extra time and effort to reach out.
If someone asks you to RSVP for something, it means they need to know if you will be present. This way they know how much food to order, for example, or what sized event space will be needed. If your plans change, let the host know—don't just not turn up!
When was the last time you felt someone was actually listening to you, and taking in what you were saying? Too often people fall into the bad habit of tuning out when others are speaking, or simply waiting for their own chance to talk.
Nice table manners make mealtimes so much more pleasant for everyone. Chewing with your mouth closed, asking for someone to pass something instead of reaching across the table, not talking with food in your mouth—these are all basic manners, and far more important than elbows on or off the table.
Opening the door for someone is such a simple yet thoughtful gesture. It doesn't have to be a man doing it for a woman in terms of old-fashioned chivalry: Anyone can show consideration for others by doing small polite things that makes their life even slightly easier.
There's a reason we drum this into children. Saying please and thank you are often the first manners we are taught, and they are the foundation for civility and consideration towards others. It costs nothing and shows respect and appreciation.
It's common to address people by their first names, but many might find it rude. Older people might think it disrespectful to be treated with familiarity. It's always safest to ask what people prefer to be called.
A proper apology is being direct, honest, and contrite, it is not telling someone you're sorry they feel that way. A genuine apology comes from the heart and doesn't come with caveats such as "but".
Personal space changes from culture to culture, but it's best to err on the side of caution and not stand too close to people, especially if you don't know them. Leave space while waiting in line, and be patient if people are walking slower than you'd like.
Few things show good manners better than giving up your seat on public transport to someone who might need it more. Pregnant women, the elderly, or disabled people may need special attention at times, and to swiftly and discreetly offer your seat is not just kind, but a reflection on your own character.
Waiting your turn with patience and grace is another old-fashioned courtesy that seems to have disappeared from view (just take a look at any security line at the airport!). Being patient shows consideration and maturity. Even if it's on Black Friday.
This is a big one—being on time shows respect and consideration for the people around you. It sends the message that their time is just as important as yours. Few things are more rude than chronic lateness.
Respect for elders is one of the building blocks of society. Older people have earned dignity and respect, and it sets a good example for young people about being considerate to those older and wiser than them.
Few things show appreciation and love like sending flowers. This gesture is considerate, thoughtful, and lets someone know you are thinking of them. Every time you look at the flowers, you are reminded of the person who sent them.
It takes very little time to write a thank you card, and means a lot to the person being thanked. While saying thank you is nice, actually sending a card shows you took the time to really make an effort. This is an especially sweet habit for young children to learn when saying thank you for birthday or holiday gifts.
